Add a flag to the API so users can indicate they want
silent operations. This is needed because silent ops
cannot be used with USE_ONCE MRs, so we can't just
assume silent.
Also, change send_xmit to do atomic op before rdma op if
both are present, and centralize the hairy logic to determine if
we want to attempt silent, or not.
Signed-off-by: Andy Grover <andy.grover@oracle.com>
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